Having a successful relationship starts with knowing
who you are completely. You can’t fully love someone,
if you are still questioning who you are, or what you
could possibly bring to the table. 2014 was a year of
learning and transition for many people, and if you are
ready to step into 2015 with a roadmap for love, we
wish you much success. We’d like to share 7 Guiding
Principles for Having Amazing Relationships in 2015:
1. Know who you are
Get to know yourself, get God’s view of yourself and
live by that, says Tatianah Green in Singles: How are
You “Actively Waiting” for Marriage?
When you make the decision to be single and actively
wait for God’s plan to unfold, you’re excited to pursue
His plan for your life and not deciding to worry about
marriage.
2. Be open to change with the time comes
You wondered when would you become involved in a
relationship? You have imagined it, dreamed about it
(and even prayed about it) and now the time is here! In
5 Steps for Transitioning from Being Single into a
Relationship, Michelle Cameron ask what are some
ways where your life must adjust to accommodate the
growing relationship?
You may have been single for a long time and have
gotten used to a routine where you are doing the things
you need to do or want to do on your own schedule
without a thought.
3. Know When to Walk Away
Sometimes we stay to long. “But I love him!” I hear
many women say. Unfortunately, love isn’t a good
enough reason to stay in a relationship says Aesha
Roberts in, 3 Signs that You Should Call it Quits in a
Relationship.
“Every second you spend with the wrong one is a
second you’re not with “The One.”
4. We Are All Works in Progress
Writer, Tatianah Green, shares in 10 Things to get
‘Delivert’ from by 2015, we have God’s grace to cover
our mistakes and she prays that we all get the wisdom
to not make them again. With that being said, it’s time
to start declaring with your powerful words, what you
will and will not do in 2015 as a single.
No excuses for not enjoying life before you get
married. “Oh I’ll wait to go to Paris ‘til I get married,” no
—time to plan that trip in your single season! In this
season of waiting, you should also be working and
preparing.
5. Don’t Rush to the Alter
I have known of many singles over the years who
rushed to get married, says Michelle Cameron in 8
Reasons Why Singles Rush to the Altar and 3 Ways to
Make It Last. For some, it worked out well and they
have been together for many years, but for many,
rushing to marry was a disaster waiting to happen.
Surround yourselves with mentors and advisers who
can caution you if you are about to make a serious
mistake by getting married quickly. Marriage is
intended to last forever. Do all you can before
exchanging vows to lay a strong foundation for a
healthy marriage.
6. Know Where You Stand in a Relationship
In Why You Should Talk about the Relationship Status
before You Become Intimate a reader reveals she
became intimate too soon and now questions where
her relationship stands. Tiya Cunningham-Sumter,
quickly gave her reassurance about her decision and
offered great words of advice.
No matter how funky it feels, you cheat yourself when
you don’t share what it is you want. If they don’t desire
the same thing, at least you know and you can move
forward. But if they do, you can begin to develop that
committed partnership.
7. Develop Healthy Relationships
Past failed relationships may have long-term negative
effects on individuals if they lack healthy coping skills.
Dr. Buckingham says, a damaged heart and loss of
trust is difficult to repair in What 5 Steps Can a Single
Woman Take to Develop Healthy Relationships?
Despite the personal challenges we might face, in
regards to developing relationships, we must not forget
that anything worth having, is worth working for.
Source: blackandmarriedwithkids
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