You splashed on her favourite fragrance, booked the
best suite for the wedding night, and celebrated your
union in every way possible, all because you were
thrilled about starting a new episode of life with her.
But, once you became “man and wife”, why is your
bond becoming dreary? What is now stopping those
butterflies in your stomach that were there earlier
during your dating days? The shift from being “lovers”
to a “married couple” brings certain changes in your
equation (for better or for worse!). But, wouldn’t you
wish to go back to those days where you were just her
“boyfriend”? We are sure she secretly desires the same
as well. So, here is how you can beat those marital
qualms just by being her boyfriend all over again.
#1 “Re-treasure” her presence
When was the last time you said, “I’m lucky to have you
in my life” after getting the “Married” tag? Or, when
was the last time you whispered “Gosh! You look
stunning” to the mother of your kids? We realise that
your chaotic lifestyle keeps you busy. But does that
mean you will overlook those goodbye kisses and
praises that made her feel loved and treasured? You
just have to be your old self and your love life will get
back on track. Do all those unusual little things that
once made her feel special and admired.
#2 Spend time on yourself
Earlier on, you always turned up impeccably dressed,
shaved and groomed while you were going out with her,
right? Just because you are now living together,
doesn’t mean you stop putting in efforts to look smart
and well-groomed. Just like in “those” days, when you
loved to see her in that little black dress, she too loved
it when you wore that blue t-shirt with denims. So, once
in a while keep the formals at bay, and dress to impress
her.
#3 Hold her
Before marriage, you always looked for an excuse to
hold her hand or steal away a simple hug. But now, you
hardly get time to whisper sweet nothings, leave alone
anything else. While you are out with family or
watching TV at home, hold her and see what magic it
does for your bond. Just putting your arm around her
shoulder or holding her hand can do wonders for your
relationship.
#4 Get as adventurous as you were
Demanding work schedules take a toll on your love life.
But that doesn’t mean you will stop planning things to
do together. Just try to recall a shared passion, like
listening to music, hiking, travelling, clubbing or
exercising. The shared activities will bring you closer,
and reignite the dying spark. It will help you reconnect
with each other and prevent your marriage from
becoming boring.
#5 Surprise text messages
While you two were dating, you used to sent her
hundreds of “I love you” texts during the day. But now
you can go on for days without expressing it. It is time
to be her beau again with those magical words. Even if
you are too busy to verbalise them, you always have
opportunity to send her love notes through text.
Something like, “Fantasising about you!” or “How is
your day going?” will build that flirty momentum you
had during your dating days. Even a wink via text can
make her day special.
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